Having never been married (or even close) or had a child, it might seem odd for me to talk about love. Let’s face it, when most people talk about love, they are talking about romantic love. Then there is the love for a parent to a child and vice versa. But that isn’t the love that I am talking about. Love can, and should, imbue your entire life. I try to apply that principle to mine and for the most part, it is working.
I have built a career in the field of learning and development. I love my work as a corporate trainer and as an instructional designer. I get to present, I get to write and it allows me to indulge my creativity. All things I love to do. More often than not (especially now), I enjoy my working environment and my co-workers. Those times I haven’t, I’ve looked for other work until I have found a position where I can laugh and work with people whom I enjoy.
I have worked hard to surround myself with friends who are more like family than most family. It’s taken a bit of time but I have a solid group around me. We travel together, we often spend holidays together and I know they have my back. They make it possible for me to live a drama-free life. And to be honest, they’ve spoiled me. A lot of times dating brings drama and I neither want it or need it. I’m happy.
I share my home with Jake, and Marty before him. I love being a pet parent. It’s even better knowing that both dogs were rescued. I truly believe that pets are the only way to receive completely unconditional love is through a pet (although I think that may be true of dogs more than cats).
To quote Lenny Kravitz, I try to Let Love Rule. I drive to my job in a red 2017 Mazda3 and I absolutely love it. I see it across the parking lot and I smile. I slip behind the driver’s seat, crank up my music and enjoy the time I’m driving.
I’m not going to lie and say it has always been this way because it hasn’t. I’ve worked at jobs I haven’t enjoyed. Lived in sketchy places and had a couple of truly crazy roommates. I’ve struggled monetarily more times that I care to count. I’ve worked hard to get where I am and I am finally life a happy life.
I don’t know if this was possible earlier. You can’t really make yourself a priority when there are ladders to climb, kids to raise and a person to try to be (you know the one everyone wants you to be). You guys can tell me about the kid part but I know about being what people except and it stunk.
For Jean, her Buddhist faith is a key component of her happiness. She loves teaching college students and has a series of strong relationships.
Does this mean that life is perfect? Of course not! I am grappling with a father facing dementia and I was recently diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. Life will never be perfect but we can fill it with as much love as possible. It makes the bad times bearable.
So, ask yourself, how happy are you? What would it take to be happier, a new job, starting your own business? Would it help to stay in your relationship, leave it, or start a relationship? What could make your home or work life more manageable?
You have worked hard and it is time to reap the rewards.