Tis the season … the season for resolutions that is. You o=know the things you vow to do that you never get around to doing. Yet, every year, we promise ourselves that things will be different. So, it shouldn’t come as much of a surprise that, according to NBC News (https://www.nbcnews.com/business/consumer/2017-new-year-s-resolutions-most-popular-how-stick-them-n701891) only 8% of people who set resolutions actually achieve them
So what is the problem? I can give you at least five reasons.
- People make too many resolutions. According to Franklin Covey, set more than 2 – 3 goals and you are in trouble. In fact, the more goals you set, the fewer you’ll achieve,
- You set resolutions you feel you should have but aren’t excited to achieve. No one commits to should-goals.
- You might plan your steps, but you don’t plan for setbacks. When the going gets tough, the not-so-tough quit.
- No man is an island. When we try to go for our goals by ourselves, we don’t have the strength of numbers behind us and we fail.
- We aren’t gracious with ourselves. We expect success to be a straight line from A to B. Success always comes with obstacles, setbacks and forks in the road.
You want to take advantage of the clean slate the New Year brings but since resolutions don’t work, what should you do?
I have the answer! Try your hand at the Golden Goals Method! As a corporate trainer, I have facilitated my share of goal-setting courses. Goals should be SMART – specific, measurable, achievable, results-oriented and timed. I believed this was a great start but just a start. I had a class full of excited goal setters. I would see them several weeks later demoralized and discouraged.
There had to be a better way, I thought about it for a while and came up with the five step Golden Goals Method. Here are the five-steps.
- Looking Back – Looking at the past 1 – 2 years, what went well and what didn’t. More importantly, what happened internally to make those things happen.
- Blast to the Future – Looking ahead one year from today, list everything that has happened in this amazing year, big and small. Circle several goals that would help get you there.
- Stop shoulding on yourself. Get rid of any goals you think you should accomplish but aren’t excited about. Pick 1 – 3 goals that are golden, in other words which goals would have a positive domino effect on your life. For example, reducing credit card debt would be great for your credit score, allow you to save more, eliminate a source of stress and maybe allow you to have more fun.
- Get It Work: Put your plan together. This step goes beyond steps and SMART goals and addresses the issues that stopped you from succeeding before.
- Get Real: This step focuses on changing your mindset and getting you ready for the long haul.
Sound good? It’s attached a downloadable Golden Goal planner. It’s free.
If you want to take things a step further, take an hour and go through the Golden Goal process. In an hour, you would have gone through all five steps and come up with some yummy goals you can’t wait to achieve!