Wouldn’t it be great if you had a piece of a loved one (maybe a mother or grandmother) long after they passed on? It would be something like a memoir of their experiences, lessons learned and some of their hopes and dreams. It would give you a glimpse into who this person really was and what really mattered to them. Well, it is possible and there is a guide to get you there.
We aren’t necessarily talking about a journal. We’re looking at something a little more structured and organized. This is a piece of work that will allow you to leave a piece of you to others.
You don’t have to have children to take advantage of this opportunity. It works regardless of your familial or relationship status. While you could be writing for your progeny, you are also writing for you. In the book, It All Matters: The Parent Project, author Cathy Cardio poses a series of provocative questions that require thought and time to ponder.
I wish my mother had had a book like this to leave to me. My memories and the memories of those around her leave me putting a puzzle together with a lot of missing pieces. A project like this would have given me some of those missing pieces and I wish I’d had that.
In our conversation with Cathy, I walked away thinking about what I want to do, how I want to be remembered and the kind of impact I want to leave on others.
- Travel (Spain, Italy, Costa Rica and the U.K. in particular)
- Go ziplining
- Take acting/improv classes
- Go on a culinary tour of New Orleans
Here are a few things that I’ve already done
- Won money on a game show
- Seen the Grand Canyon
- Gone to a South African game park where I saw elephants, lions and monkeys
- Traveled across the continental United States
- Written a screenplay that featured a performance by Danny Glover
These are the kinds of things I would want to be remembered for. At the same time, I’d like to share some of my disappointments, worries and concerns. And let’s not forget, I would love to share some of the hard lessons I had to learn.
In addition to chronicling events and dreams, the whole idea is to inspire you to get moving and life your life right now; so that you have experiences to share. The worst thing is to come to the end of this life with a long list of regrets and and shoulda-coulda-wouldas.
So seize the day and share those experiences!